Tanya Bystrova-McIntyre
Tanya Bystrova-McIntyre, MA 鈥04, MA 鈥06, PhD 鈥12, an associate professor of Russian and translation studies, first came to 小黄片视频 in 2002 as a graduate student. After earning a doctorate, she joined the faculty in 2013. Since then, she says she鈥檚 tried to share her mental health journey with students who are also struggling.
Before I was diagnosed with PTSD [post-traumatic stress disorder], I was in an abusive relationship. As often happens, it wasn鈥檛 apparent at first. Abusers suck you in gradually and make it seem like it鈥檚 your fault. At first it was verbal abuse, and then I was beaten up. At that point, I finally found the strength to walk away. I called the police. But for many people鈥攎any women like me鈥攊t is very hard to walk away, because abusers make you feel like you need them. Like you can鈥檛 live without them.
But to find help, you have to ask for help. Asking for help is hard. It may seem like it鈥檚 easy, but it鈥檚 hard. Then it鈥檚 hard to accept help. And it鈥檚 not just once you have to learn to ask for it. You have to ask every time you need it and accept it with grace and not shame. It鈥檚 a constant journey.
I didn鈥檛 know that PTSD can happen not just from war but from an abusive relationship. I shared how I felt at work with my colleagues and one of them sent me a private message that said to contact this counselor. And I did. The counselor helped me learn.
At first, it was devastating to me. I had to learn to deal with my panic attacks through exercises, meditation and medication. And to stay on top of all that鈥攁nd, if I slip, to seek help again.
I had to learn not to be ashamed every second of my life about what happened to me. At first, I was ashamed to show my face in public. I had to learn not to blame myself for what happened to me.
I had to grow, a lot. Being open about my condition actually took me many years.
I see so many students who have to live with their mental health problems every day, every hour. And I want to help them. I want to teach them to help themselves.
I never pry. We鈥檙e not allowed to. But I share my condition openly, when it鈥檚 appropriate. When students share that they鈥檝e had a panic attack, or anxiety, or they鈥檙e too depressed to come to class that day, I say that I really understand, and I say that it happens to me, as well. I say, 鈥淒on鈥檛 be afraid to ask for help鈥攖o contact your support system, your medical professionals, your counselors.鈥
I think when people talk about these things openly, it is extremely important. I appreciate that posters are being put around the campus because we have to become visible, and our conditions need to become known. And I think teaching the community about how to understand and interact with us should be the next step.